Like the intentional practice of gratefulness, forgiveness is a healthy and powerful mindset shift that will only serve to help you succeed. Both of these shifts lend themselves to abundance. They’re the flip-sides to the same coin, and when you incorporate and build these standards into your daily life, you’ll do business better, you’ll be a better friend, spouse, parent, neighbor, mentor, partner, and you’ll have a deeper capacity for evolution and forward momentum. Forgiveness is not about excusing somebody else’s transgressions. It’s about empowering yourself to grow from all of your life experiences. And it says a lot about your own character, and not allowing outside forces to shift you off course.
Forgiveness Helps Shift Your Perspective
Forgiveness is not about the other person. It is about how you respond to them, and the situations created through your interactions. When we hold a grudge, we actually are making our world smaller. It keeps us in a heightened emotional state where we’re so focused on our hurt, that we can’t move forward. We tend to be less trusting of others, and less willing to connect, and it can damage our other healthy relationships.
When we are able to forgive others, in time we can shift our perspective and see the bigger picture. We can refocus on what’s important. We can learn how to avoid repeating similar patterns, and we might even be able to understand the other’s perspective and heal the relationship.
Forgiving Ourselves First
We shouldn’t save our forgiveness for others. We are all human, and we learn by making mistakes. The only way to move past our mistakes is to acknowledge them and work on doing better. But if we are persistently beating ourselves up for our past, we can’t move forward from it.
Learning to let go of shame surrounding regrettable actions helps you be open to putting as much distance as possible between yourself and those mistakes of the past. They are only character flaws if you don’t acknowledge them, and eventually learn to release them.
It takes a lot of inner work to master this, but it’s worth it. It will give you the clarity to set and reach new goals and evolve into an improved version of yourself. We should always look ahead and focus on growth, not what’s behind us.
Forgiveness Builds a Capacity for Mutual Trust and Growth
Often our interpersonal relationships are directly related to the way we perceive our own strengths and weaknesses. When we can forgive ourselves, it helps us handle conflict with others in a healthier way. We can listen and work through issues with less judgment, and the ability to let go of our need to control the situation at hand.
When we’re able to handle conflict well and share forgiveness openly, we deescalate and navigate complicated situations better. We also shift the tone and allow others to embrace the forgiveness mindset with themselves and others. It leaves the door open as people shift in and out of our lives, and keeps us connected to others in a way that leaves us open to new opportunities in the future.